Showing posts with label prayer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label prayer. Show all posts

Sunday, March 31, 2013

Lessons from the Fig Tree


Learn this lesson from the fig tree: When its branch is new and tender and begins to put forth leaves, you know that summer must be near. In the same way, when you see and hear the things I've described to you taking place, you'll know the time is drawing near.

Heaven and earth may pass away, but these words of Mine will never pass away.

Mark 13:28, 29, 31


It began as a mere stick in a black plastic pot labeled Brown Turkey Fig from Sut Smith ten years ago.

We pruned severely the grown fig tree out back this spring. Limbs littered the yard and overflowed three large cans. On a whim, I filled a clear vase with bare brown sticks and put them in my kitchen window.

They offered arresting beauty in their simplicity. In a few days, I noticed buds emerging followed by tender green shoots. Then the recognizable leaf unfurled.

Sticks cut off from their source of nutrients sprouted tiny buds, evidence of new life bound up in the DNA of each plant cell. They did what they are programmed to do: replicate. The coding in the cell coupled with water in the pitcher supplied enough momentum—but barely enough--to produce fig leaves.

Severed from roots which fuel long-term growth, a vase of water could sustain life for only so long; they began to drop leaves last week as though on cue. Figs, while hardy, are not made to thrive on kitchen counters.

I spoke to a group recently using these sticks as an illustration. One person declared them beautiful. Others asked to take them home, perhaps to root. Here we were, clamoring for fig sticks, and I had just sent a multitude of them to the dump. Armed with a new-found appreciation for my garden waste, I came home and clipped even more forked sticks from the limbs still lying in our yard. I now have containers of fig branches I've been watching, and I've learned a few lessons.

1. God makes beautiful that which we discard.

God redeems the broken and ascribes value to the things—and people?—that we throw away. We have switched the price tags in our culture of what we value, and we hardly notice anymore. Composting kitchen and lawn debris has emerged as a rallying cry for sustainable living. For really sustainable living, we need eyes that see beauty in unexpected people and places.

2. We need to develop a tolerance for pruning.

Some plants bloom off old wood; others need new growth.  Selective pruning generally increases productivity and results in a stronger, revitalized plant. Can the same be said for us?

We, too, experience times of severe loss, of feeling cut back to the quick. Freshly shorn of comfortable overgrowth, we are left raw and ragged. We know what it is to experience transplant shock after change. Starting over seems impossible. We have the choice to recalibrate and develop fresh patterns and healthy structures after being laid bare from whatever cause. Adaptation to a new environment is essential because life keeps changing. Survivors learn to adapt.

3. Develop deep roots.

We may opt to sit on the shelf in tepid water after pruning and hope no one notices life is different now. That will work for a while. Like my fig sticks, we continue to go through the motions putting out the same shoots and showing up at familiar places. We can fool some of the people some of the time but...sooner or later the gig's up. We cannot generate enough fuel from depleted reservoirs--spiritually and physically--to jump start sagging spirits and sluggish lives. When we least expect it, we resemble my fig branches in the vase: the leaves fall off and curl on the counter. Shallow or nonexistent roots will not long support life.

Root tendrils will find their way to a water source; if only on the surface, shallow roots develop. I want to be drought-tolerant and hardy, having roots driven down and penetrating deeply.  I believe we are made to seek after God who alone provides the best model of sustainability in an uncertain world.

Central to adapting to a changed landscape is to prepare for what we can expect, and not to worry about what we cannot change.

Reinhold Niebuhr penned a guide to this kind of living in dependence on the Master Gardener. For some it is a daily prayer for survival:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Today on Easter Sunday we celebrate the Good News that God offers for the pruned, the hungry and especially for those who do not think they need any help at all. He is Risen just as He said.

Thanks be to God.

Friday, February 15, 2013

Lessons from a Glass Jar





One of my earliest experiences in prayer occurred fifty years ago today and includes the governor’s mansion, Miss America, and a mason jar.

February was Heart Fund month, and the race was on all over Mississippi to see who could raise the most money for the heart association. Each of the girls—first grade through high school--had a jar to collect donations.  If you grew up in a small town, you may remember the sight: mayonnaise and mason jars adorned with valentines and photos of the girls placed alongside the cash registers in the Western Auto, drug store and grocery stores – prime real estate! I was only in the third grade, but I launched my campaign to win.

 My parents would not let me put out my jar in town much to my dismay; I was left to earn money from chores and to collect spare change at the end of the day. The teacher tallied totals on the blackboard daily, and the handwriting on the wall told me I was in trouble.

As February 14 drew near, my anxiety grew. The prize was to be Queen of
the Class. The Overall Heart Fund Queen for the town received the grand prize: a trip to the
Governor’s Mansion in Jackson where all the statewide queens would gather for lunch. The rumor spread quickly that they had a solid gold bathroom.

How significant was this dream to be queen? Princess costumes still sell wildly today, but this was back in 1963. Mary Ann Mobley and Linda Lee Mead had won back-to-back Miss America as Miss Mississippi. Even as a third grader, I was impressed. To add fuel to the queenly fire, I had just been on the front page of The Daily Mississippian seated in the lap of my aunt who had been crowned Miss University. I was star struck among those glamorous girls. Surely there was a crown in my future!

On February 13, I had assessed the class totals and knew that--barring a miracle--I would not win. The night before the big day I prayed my little seven-year-old heart out, asking God to please let my daddy put a twenty dollar bill in that jar before morning. Nobody would come close to that. I knew he could do it. I believed.

I awoke the next morning with eager anticipation, and there sat my jar: no twenty. Didn’t my parents want me to win? It was within their power to make it happen. It would have been so easy, I thought.

No, I didn’t win--not even the top of my little third grade class.

 At the end of the day, however, I do remember how pleased my father was to learn that Lucy, a high school senior had won. Lucy was one of his favorite patients, an irrepressible young woman stricken with polio who moved through the halls of the school with her aluminum crutches.

When I voiced my disappointment – okay, I was seven - my father put his arms around me and hugged me close offering both comfort and wisdom I was unable to perceive then. He had a different perspective and helped me frame the disappointing experience: “Marita, you’ll have many chances to go to Jackson in your life, and you'll see the governor’s mansion; but Lucy never dreamed she’d have a day like this.”

The town of Monticello proclaimed a day for Queen Lucy with her picture on the front page of The Lawrence County Press.

I have reflected on what I saw as unanswered prayer and learned a lesson from that little heart fund jar. Sometimes our prayers are like my childhood prayer:  “God, you can do this! It is not too hard for you.”

In some ways we still ask for the thing we think would put us over the top. It may not be “please put a twenty in the heart fund jar”, but fill in the blank for our own personal crisis. We tell God precisely how to fix a person or situation. And just like my lesson 50 years ago, we still don’t get what we ask for.

Does that mean we didn’t ask with the correct incantation to make our prayer acceptable to God? Perhaps proper verbal tweaking likely was not and is not the missing link. Sometimes what we desire just does not come to pass.   Prayer is one of life’s mysteries.

 From my limited point of view, the answer looked easy; but my parents had a different perspective--a bigger picture in mind--and the quick fix I wanted was not the best for me.

When we are in the midst of true disappointment now as adults, facing times of real anxiety, we implore God through prayer. We give thanks for what we call answered prayer when what we seek comes to pass, but the place of anguish is when we do not get what we want. We may not see a way out barring a miracle, so we ask God in the only way we know how: pouring our hearts out earnestly and sometimes begging for the solution we seek. God is big enough to take it all and sift it lovingly. Our God remains steadfast to meet our deepest needs, though help may come in times and ways we cannot anticipate. Yet, God is trustworthy.

And my father was right, as always.

Several parents who heard this story recently said indignantly, “I can’t believe your parents did not let you win! What was wrong with them?” I think that is another difference in parenting in the sixties and today, but that is another topic.

We have taught our children what might be dubbed the gospel according to the Rolling Stones:
“You can’t always get what you want….but you get what you need.”  Put another way, “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” 2 Corinthians 9:8




Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Dream Again and Deeper



"For broken dreams, the cure is dream again...and deeper."  ~ C.S. Lewis


Some would tell us that dreaming is idle; dreaming is wasting time.

"Stop daydreaming," we hear from a distant classroom memory as the teacher scolded disengaged students. Yet, dreaming has a hallowed place among the mature and serious just the same. Dreaming  generates within us a quickness, a lightness of spirit in spite of age or infirmity. There can be an invisible quality to dreaming that greatly enhances our days.

"We are such stuff as dreams are made on..." Shakespeare wrote on The Tempest.

Never stop dreaming.

Wake up a tired dream. Dust off an old one. Seek a fresh vision for this present season of life and pray for an ability to imagine our lives invigorated by a dream. Let it bubble up. Watch it intersect our lives from unexpected places. Seek it diligently. Prepare to see something new, and give thanks.

Never stop dreaming.


Nunquam subsisto somniare

Jamais arrêter de rêver

Mai smettere di sognare

никогда не прекращайте мечтать

Anyway you say it, the key is to keep a dream alive.

Stay plugged into a source that feeds us with life-giving energy when much of the world around us would drain us and leave us aching for more. More stuff. More time. More money. More influence. More and enough to stockpile, if we could, but we cannot. Time is like manna: we only have enough for this day to use wisely.

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. James 1:5


 photo credit: Prentice Stabler

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Glorious Mountains and Valleys


Sunset over the Cathedral Group in the Tetons









Every week needs a day of rest, a time of sabbath. Yet in our quest for productivity or simply in our busyness, we shortchange ourselves and deplete our resources. Our tanks can be empty, and we may not even know it. Running on fumes will not long sustain us. Our bodies and souls break down, tipping us off to the need for rest.

We find rest in many places, physically and spiritually. The beauty of nature holds hidden the ability to astound us when we look with open eyes. Such beauty opens our souls and lets in a vision larger than ourselves and our troubling circumstances. We need frequent reminders to look up and out; the call to take our eyes off ourselves rings out daily. The scenes above serve a feast for the eyes and spirit!


Prayer at Evening Time
 
You, O Lord, offer renewable renewable resources! You quench soul thirst. You meet our deepest needs, even when we are unable to articulate them to ourselves. So we come to you on this Sunday evening...a rainy September day....at the close of the month that marks a transition into fall..and  we draw near to you. Restore, in your mercy, those who come in weariness. Grant us peace, to those who carry the heavy load of grief. Prompt with your immense love the reminder that we are loved with an everlasting love.

Everlasting God, you are our starting point and our ending place.
We praise you and honor you.

Your are our Rock...
Our hiding place.

You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides.

You offer the cleft of the rock as our protector when we need a shield from all that assails us in this life.

You are our solid ground. You offer firm footing when we seem unable to navigate on our own strength for seasons of life.

Then when we thirst and grow weary--for we always grow weary alone--you provide springs of living water...pools of refreshment along the way... sometimes from the most unlikely sources: from a patch of dry ground, from the kindness of strangers, in a loving word spoken in due season...and through the mystery and power of your Holy Spirit.

You are our Healer. We acknowledge our need of you and  bring our cares to you, for you are our Resting Place.

We remember the prayers for others we offer today--not because you need to hear them from us--but because we want to model as a way of living taking all our cares to you, for you care for us. In our doing so, we pray you will set us free from the destructive cycle of worry. 


All glory and honor to you,

Amen


Before the mountains were born or you brought forth the earth and the world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God. Psalm 90:2

You are my hiding place; Psalm 32:7

I will put you in a cleft in the rock and cover you with My hand   Exodus 33:22

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.  I Peter 5:7

Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; Psalm 55:22

He made my feet like the feet of a deer and set me secure on the heights. Psalm 18:33

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2



Photo note:
A friend sent these photos from a drive through the valley, capturing the vista of sunset in the Tetons and the approach to the lovely little Chapel of the Transfiguration, built in 1925, at Menors' Ferry, just north of Jackson Hole. Photo at bottom is Jenny Lake in the shadow of the range.  What a magnificent sight! Thank you, Chuck.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Seasons of Life for Quiet Works of the Soul

Lookout Mountain winding upwards, September 2012




Winding road to Lookout Mountain after heavy rains, Winter 2011

"A crop is made by all the seasons and the only way to have it all — is not at the same time… but letting one season bring its yield into the next."
Anne Voskamp


The photo above I made Sunday is a stark contrast to the one made one winter after a heavy rain. Same bend in the road, same time of day, but different scene. September marks a transition from summer growth and lush landscapes to autumn's glorious display before winter's starkness. The trickling stream hardly resembled the tumultuous waterfall I had visited earlier.

Sometimes life comes at us with the rushing force of water washing over us as we struggle to come up for air. Other seasons, we thirst, languishing in an inability to move forward at all.

We seek direction.

We need propulsion to move to the next step for we do not even know what that means--the next step.

To grow, to flourish in all the seasons of life means adapting to the rhythm that is inherent in this life. There are periods of rapid growth with spurts and growing pains, and there are times of dormancy.

Times of industry and times of inactivity. Each is necessary for the healthy cycle of life.

It is tempting in our culture to value the industry phases for their productivity and to disdain what appears to be unproductive time. We sell ourselves short when we fail to embrace the opportunities that come to us in times of waiting. The setting of buds for the coming spring happens without any outward sign that work is taking place. We, too, can prepare for the next season by anticipating what is needed and making time to seek direction.

Contemplation and prayer are quiet works of the soul. They are essential to our spiritually healthy lives.  We may crowd them out in times of stress and frenzied activity, for they do not demand their own way; yet, we deprive ourselves of food for our anxious hearts and hurried souls if we neglect them. Times of waiting and discerning the next step--times that may appear to be dormant or inactive for us--can yield a bountiful harvest of grace-filled moments when we choose to invest time and energy in prayerful pursuits.

What looks idle or dormant in one season of life may in fact be a time of surging growth as the heart and soul prepare to thrive in the next step.



“Come, everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and he who has no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without price." Isaiah 55:1

"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven"  Ecclesiastes 3:1

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Tiny Dancer


For those of us who  donned layers of tulle--back then we just called it net--and who delighted in the whirr of momma's machine stitching those costumes or the arrival of the recital regalia in a box, there surely is a knowing smile in seeing the photo above. We can imagine so much associated with this pic of the tiny dancer and her beautifully posed leg.

This dancer has a name and a story I'd like to share. Her daughter found the pic yesterday and thought it was her big sister, or perhaps herself, only to discover it is a photo of her mom. Mothers and daughters can be like that: distinct and separate,  yet inextricably linked by a powerful bond and sometimes by physical features as these two share in many ways.

I lovingly offer an update on Cindy's story, previously shared here.  Her Caring Bridge is the site of my writings these days in loving service and prayer.

Hers is the most grace-filled, courageous, unselfish life story in the face of tremendous pain and loss that I have observed. She has taught me much that I must absorb and emulate when I, too, encounter hardship and unimagined difficulty. Too many specifics to share, and I'm not sure I can even express in words...but I am still learning how to reflect this life of profound faith and trusting in God's provision.

I have seen it done.

I know nothing is impossible.

I don't mean miraculous turn-arounds and quick healing as we have longed; I mean living into those  impossible fears and declaring what we can and cannot do in life. We can do hard things. We live faithfully, day in and out, trusting the only one who can support our steps when we falter.





Snapshots of a precious pair whose hearts are forever intertwined offer a glimpse of faces to go with the story.  God bless them both. Dance on!

"Praise him with the tambourine and dancing; praise him with strings and flutes!"
Psalm 150:4

Mercy Me's "I Can Only Imagine" is the desired soundtrack for this right now. It is playing in my head, but I don't want to run afoul of copyright laws. Maybe I can post the lyrics anyway....

I can only imagine
What it will be like
When I walk
By Your side

I can only imagine
What my eyes will see
When Your face
Is before me

I can only imagine
I can only imagine

[Chorus:]
Surrounded by Your glory, what will my heart feel
Will I dance for You Jesus or in awe of you be still
Will I stand in Your presence or to my knees will I
fall
Will I sing hallelujah, will I be able to speak at all

I can only imagine
I can only imagine

I can only imagine
When that day comes
And I find myself
Standing in the sun

I can only imagine
When all I will do
Is forever
Forever worship You

I can only imagine
I can only imagine

Surrounded by Your glory, what will my heart feel
Will I dance for You Jesus or in awe of You be still
Will I stand in Your presence or to my knees will I
fall
Will I sing hallelujah, will I be able to speak at all

I can only imagine
I can only imagine

[- From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/m/mercyme-lyrics/i-can-only-imagine-lyrics.html -]

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Of Screen Doors and Southern Porches



There is a particle within that magnetically draws me closer to a screen door.
Perhaps it is the proximity to a porch with rocking chairs or a swing hanging low or a kitchen where tomatoes sit upside down on the counter.

Maybe it is the whirr of an oscillating fan co-mingled with the night noises of crickets near the banks of the Pearl River where Susie and I would sleep overnight on Mattie Lou's sleeping porch in junior high school.

Whatever it is, a screen door beckons. Offering more than flow-through ventilation, the creak of a screen door with its thin, worn frame provides entrance to a storehouse of memories in the South.

I do not have a screen door anywhere on my house today. We have heavy doors, weather stripping, a few clad windows that do not need painting, all with a goal of insulation from the elements. Modernity has replaced the screen door with new-and-improved, but something's missing. Something from the past has been shut out.

Today's busy lives without time or desire to sit a spell and enjoy conversation amid the steady rocking of a wooden chair or rhythmic ebb and flow of a swing or aluminum glider are sadly draining our collective cultural memory and depleting our personal batteries, and we may not even recognize it. I sound like an old-timer's misty reflection on the good old days.

I have been reflecting on childhood a bit after my Monticello next door neighbor since 1960 died this week. Nell and homemade divinity were synonymous. She was much more than the sum of her Christmas candy--that picture being but a snapshot etched from the memory banks of the past-- and her passing brought to light dear old sights and sounds. Both next door neighbors have died this summer, actually, stirring the family pot of cross-country reminiscing emails and sharing stories across the miles of the good people who have shared our lives on that plot of ground.  

Reminiscing offers the pause that refreshes.

Telling the stories to another generation or two who come alongside and widen the circle is a part of these present good old days, much like we did with grandparents on their front porch in a glider and rocking chair. How else would we have known about the Preacher and the Bear or Ezekiel and the dry bones? Or about John Henry, that steel drivin’ man, Lawd Lawd? Or how would we know the thrill of hearing Casey at the throttle of the Cannonball Express with harmonic whistle sung by Ned Pace even better than Burl Ives? These are some long songs and stories, I’m telling you. They take time. And what we had as children back then was time. I don’t ever remember being over-scheduled. 

But that was then, and this is now. 

I know much of that porch sitting in the past was necessary because of the scarcity of air conditioning. Far from romanticized magnolia evenings in the South, outside was frankly cooler than inside. The house was a hot box without a screen door.

Today’s screen door may even be reduced to an accessory now with its form of more value than function. Few sit on a front porch anymore anyway, with newer homes favoring outdoor living spaces in what we used to call the back yard.

Still... I’ll take the door and the porch with a side of lemonade and feed the old memories.

Our present zeal to process and to consume--because we can--keeps driving us ever more headlong into a place that is much different from childhood for many of us. That’s not all bad.  But the need to reclaim some essence of available space in our lives for what I can only call porch-sitting remains. Electronic communication is eclipsing interpersonal communication at a speed that would melt iced tea.

Today's lifestyle insulates us from ourselves as well as others.

We don't sit well.

Sitting looks like we're doing nothing which is anathema in 2012 where multitasking rules. Our schedules even crowd out space for thoughtful communion or meditation. We prevent the very flow-through ventilation our hearts and souls need to breathe fresh air, spiritually speaking, in our lives so conditioned to forced air and forceful living.

I do not own a screen door, but all is not lost. We can still make time today to have a virtual visit to a quiet place, porch or not. We can go there anytime because God, who is not bound by time or space or weather stripping, meets us at any place where we may be still and know. God restores my soul and sets my feet upon a wide path whether we are looking toward the future or giving thanks for blessings of the past.

Most Holy One, who fills my life with grace,
Each day and night I remember your love
In my lying down and in my rising up
In life and in death
You are my health and my peace.
Each day and each night
I remember your forgiveness
Bestowed on me so gently and generously
Each day and each night
May I be fuller in love to you.

(Adapted from Celtic Prayers from Iona)